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"Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s..."

Sun, 19 May 2013 05:27:34 -0400

“Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize/ trim/ shave/ push up/ hide/ show/ ”flatter”/ paint/ dye/ exfoliate/ pierce/ surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.”

- Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason

richwhitelesbian: i mean you COULD blog about feminism, or you could enjoy the web as it was...

Sun, 19 May 2013 05:19:39 -0400

richwhitelesbian:

i mean you COULD blog about feminism, or you could enjoy the web as it was originally intended: to share military codes and messages 2 help win the cold war

Radiohead - From The Basement 2008Why had I never seen this?!

Sat, 18 May 2013 21:41:49 -0400

Radiohead - From The Basement 2008
Why had I never seen this?!

Sat, 18 May 2013 18:44:26 -0400

"I do believe music is the highest form of anything. Music is an absolutely fundamental quality of..."

Sat, 18 May 2013 00:41:23 -0400

““I do believe music is the highest form of anything. Music is an absolutely fundamental quality of the universe. Films are not fundamental entities, nor are paintings, or sculptures. They represent things and have functions. Music actually is something. Music is omniscient, a quality that echoes across space and time: from the concord and balance of galactic superclusters down to the vibrating ten dimensional filaments of superstring theory. The entire cosmos is a musical situation and all artistic and scientific endeavours tend towards music. All life aspires to the state of music. Music is a mystery, pure abstraction, calling from deep to deep. Voices raised in song are louder when you’re in love, when you’re happy, when you’re sad. Music can make hearts beat faster and cause tears to flow. Melody is a universal language. Harmony is the resting place of consciousness. Rhythm hammers the mind into the right shape. Rock stars are the only real deities. We are the music makers. We are the dreamers of dreams.””

- Alex James (Bit of A Blur)

feypocalypse: thank you so much for everything, tina

Sat, 18 May 2013 00:39:30 -0400

feypocalypse: thank you so much for everything, tina

"If you know yourself, you’ll not be harmed by what is said about you."

Fri, 17 May 2013 19:09:30 -0400

“If you know yourself, you’ll not be harmed by what is said about you.”

- Arab proverb

One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do...

Fri, 17 May 2013 18:52:00 -0400

One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant that wasn’t too luxurious. When they were seated, the owner of the restaurant asked the President’s Secret Service if he could please speak to the First Lady in private. They obliged and Michelle had a conversation with the owner. Following this conversation President Obama asked Michelle, “Why was he so interested in talking to you?” She mentioned that in her teenage years, he had been madly in love with her. President Obama then said, “So if you had married him, you would now be the owner of this lovely restaurant,” to which Michelle responded, “No. If I had married him, he would now be the President.”

Apples, I’m Home - Adam Green

Fri, 17 May 2013 16:17:52 -0400

Apples, I’m Home - Adam Green

"How often we forget that to stimulate and to satisfy oppose each other!"

Fri, 17 May 2013 05:40:21 -0400

“How often we forget that to stimulate and to satisfy oppose each other!”

- Paul Valery

lindeneller: car shadow animal

Fri, 17 May 2013 05:38:56 -0400

lindeneller:

car shadow animal

Fail Safe – Debbie Millman’s fantastic illustrated essay...

Wed, 15 May 2013 16:01:43 -0400

Fail Safe – Debbie Millman’s fantastic illustrated essay of timeless advice on courage and the creative life.

Libraries Changed My Life

Wed, 15 May 2013 11:04:48 -0400

Libraries Changed My Life:

Real life accounts from library patrons whose lives have been changed for the better by libraries.

“This Is Water” Is the Most Inspirational Thing You’ll See...

Wed, 15 May 2013 09:57:53 -0400

“This Is Water” Is the Most Inspirational Thing You’ll See Today

There is nothing in her manner to express weakness or excite...

Tue, 14 May 2013 20:35:50 -0400

There is nothing in her manner to express weakness or excite compassion. It is thoughtful, gloomy, concentrated.

- Bleak House , Charles Dickens

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Sat, 11 May 2013 06:56:13 -0400

explore-blog: Exactly twenty years after Andrew Sullivan’s...

Sat, 11 May 2013 01:27:00 -0400

explore-blog:

Exactly twenty years after Andrew Sullivan’s seminal essay “The Politics of Homosexuality,” Minnesota state representative Tim Faust (D) delivers an absolutely extraordinary, stirring speech on marriage equality, leading the Minnesota House to pass the same-sex marriage bill with a vote of 79:59.

Well, I have to start by admitting that not too long ago, I probably would have voted ‘no’ on this bill, but in the past there have been a couple things that changed my mind on this… . The question that keeps going through my mind over and over again is, “Do we, as a society, have the right to impose our religious beliefs on somebody else?” A right that I have taken for granted, and most of the people in this room have taken for granted, since the day we realized what the opposite sex is. That is a right I have taken for granted for a long time, and yet some people, because of others’ religious beliefs, do not have that right.

[…]

Last summer, I got married. And, before that, I had dated a woman for four years. And she was a wonderful woman, and I realized, after four years, that I could’ve married her and I would’ve been happily married to her for the rest of my life. But I also realized I could be happy without her. And I decided, after four years, that I wasn’t going to marry somebody I could live with — if I got married again, it was going to be to somebody I could not live without. And so we broke up.

And in a few months, I met my wife. And it didn’t take me very long to realize this was somebody I could not live without. And how lucky I am, how lucky we are. And yet, in this state, there are people that feel that way about each other, that cannot live without that other person, that feel the same way they do about each other that I feel about my wife — and yet, because of religious beliefs of other people, they do not have the right that I have taken for granted since the day I realized what the opposite sex was.

The Politics of Homosexuality, 20 years later – how Andrew Sullivan changed culture j.mp/YKvwV9 #thankyou
— Brain Pickings (@brainpickings) May 11, 2013

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" If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t..."

Wed, 08 May 2013 17:33:58 -0400

“” If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. “”

- Maya Angelou

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Wed, 08 May 2013 17:33:49 -0400

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Wed, 08 May 2013 17:31:56 -0400

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